Happy Bubbles!?!?!
So, I’m listening to this book on my ipad..and the main characters father is a serial killer (bet you feel less bad about your parentage!) Anyway, she believes she can never have a “normal” life…let alone happiness…but then…there is a point where…she realizes she IS having a normal life and she DOES have….Happy Bubbles! No, her life isn’t perfect, and she has LOTS to deal with…and I am not minimizing that we ALL have stuff…just pointing out that…even in the midst of BIG YUCKY STUFF…we can still have HAPPY BUBBLES: aka moments of happiness.
SO…how did she get these happy bubbles? How did she find a “normal” that worked for her? She decided once and for all that:
SHE IS IN CHARGE OF HER OWN LIFE
It is not her father, not the press that hounded her, not her mother that killed herself when the dad rejected her from prison…(again, hating your parents less aren’t you?) It is HER that chooses, her that guides and it is HER that is creating a life she can be happy to live (somehow I don’t think that is grammatically correct…but you get my point). The moment she realizes this, that she sees the happy bubble…isn’t a HUGE moment, it’s not even a BIG moment…in fact, it’s a little moment…where the guy she likes is playing with the dog she rescued from the side of the road…it is a normal moment, one of many she has had..she just SAW THIS ONE…really LOOKED at it…and said to herself,
“HEY! it IS possible to have normal, even happy moments…no, not all the time…and some days not nearly enough…but it’s POSSIBLE.
I know…it’s a BOOK…not even based on a real story…but still…the idea is a sound one.
IF we are in charge of our lives…can’t we make happy happen??
I would argue YES WE CAN….even in the middle of some very NOT happy moments…and she is now being tracked by a copycat serial killer…haven’t finished the book yet, but I am hoping she prevails! BUT in the midst of all the turmoil (did I mention she is also remodeling a house??) She LOOKED and SAW that she had indeed created a “normal” life with happy bubbles floating in here and there!! GO HER!
Now, what does this have to do with you? Well, I hope you are asking,
OK, Kelly…HOW CAN I CREATE HAPPY BUBBLES!?!?!
Well…you already have a leg up on her, as I doubt you have a serial killer in your family, let alone one that follows you all around…but even still…our SHIT looks BIG to us…especially in the moment. The trick folks is…not about having NO SHIT in your life, but about LOOKING between the that shit…and seeing/creating/enjoying those HAPPY BUBBLES.
Here is another tool:
Happy Bubble Creator:
Think of the last time you laughed…or even the last time you smiled…I’ll wait……………
Got it? Ok, folks…THAT was a HAPPY BUBBLE!!! Simple as that!! Don’t overthink it…don’t diminish it…and I KNOW it doesn’t mean all your troubles are solved that you are going to be all happy all the time…but it does mean you can HAVE HAPPY BUBBLES!!! Yes, they’ll pop…but the good thing about bubbles…they aren’t that hard to create!
Now, using your “happy bubble” ask yourself the following:
- What made me smile?
- What did I DO to get there?
- What was going on before that?
- What was I doing?
- Did I ENJOY it as a happy bubble?
- Can I do it again?
I know, this is just ONE moment…but if you can figure out how you got there…what was going on for you…then it will be easier to DO IT AGAIN. I’m not really talking Disneyland, or a vacation…I’m talking about…laughing maybe at a TV show, a pet, a kid…just anything that made you GRIN even if not laugh out loud. If you start keeping TRACK of those moments…letting yourself ENJOY and REVEL in the moment…you’ll get MORE happy bubbles. If you know what MAKES YOU SMILE…you’ll get more happy bubbles. If you know that you CAN have happy bubbles…you’ll GET more happy bubbles.
Now, I call them bubbles for a reason…because they pop. I know, sad…but true. EVERY happy bubble will eventually POP…just how bubbles are. If YOU pop it prematurely….by overthinking it, or bringing yourself OUT of the moment, finding a “negative” or even dreading when it’s going to end…that is a CHOICE…we COULD even do that at Disneyland…if all you think about is the lines, the cost or even that the day is going to end and you are going to have to leave…you will NOT get many happy bubbles…even in the HAPPIEST PLACE ON EARTH!!! But…even if you do not prematurely pop your happy bubble…it will eventually POP. And frankly, I’m not sure I’d be ok with everyone walking around in a happy bubble all the time…sounds kind of Stepford-wife-ish! Plus part of what makes the bubbles SPECIAL is they are bubbles…somewhat fragile and not long lasting…just makes them all the more important! And the best news is if we put our minds to it…we can:
CREATE HAPPY BUBBLES and REVEL IN THEM WHILE THEY LAST.
So, if a gal with a serial killer dad, a serial killer stalker can create, find and enjoy happy bubbles…I’m sure you can too! So go out there…create, find, and REVEL in your own Happy Bubbles.
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